Lady Gaga gives a perfect description of what happens when trauma is experienced, especially sexual assault trauma.
“Dr. Ford spoke up to protect us.”
On the October 5th airing of the Late Show, Lady Gaga was interviewed by Stephen Colbert who asked her about the current political climate and the recent US Senate Judiciary testimony by Dr. Christine Blasey Ford about her allegations of sexual assault by US Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh.
After revealing that she is a sexual assault survivor, Lady Gaga replied with a moving explanation of what happens when someone becomes traumatized by sexual assault and the effects it has on their life:
“If someone is assaulted or experiences trauma, there is science, and scientific proof, it’s biology, people change, the brain changes, and literally what it does—it takes the trauma and puts in a box and files it away and shuts it so we can survive the pain.” “It can cause body pain, it can cause baseline elevations in anxiety, it can cause complete avoidance of wanting to even remember or think of what happened to you.”
Lady Gaga, Sexual Assault Survivor
During the interview, Lady Gaga also revealed she is a sexual assault survivor. She shared wise insight into the condition that sexual assault survivors deal with.
Sexual assault survivors carry a tremendous burden and when they are often not taken seriously or their experience is questioned, it adds to their pain and contracted spirit. The first step in healing from sexual assault trauma is to be accepted and believed by those closest to the survivor. Additional steps involve unwinding the emotional knots of trauma and the physical tension and armoring that goes with them. Therapy is a good start to unpack and detangle the shame and guilt that survivors often feel, and when they are ready for it, therapeutic somatic treatments will help with releasing more emotion residue embedded in the body.
If you are a sexual assault survivor, have you told anyone? What has been your experience when telling someone about what happened to you? Were you supported and believed? What do you want men to understand about what it’s like to be traumatized in this way, and what do you want men to do when you share with them what happened?
I’ve been a spiritual counselor since 1980 and have worked with survivors of sexual abuse/assault since 2007. If I can help by listening to what you have been through, please contact me. There are several things I’ll share with you that will facilitate your healing and recovery—and with moving forward to restore your sense of wellbeing and wholeness.