Tantric healing is an alternative healing practice that is becoming more known and accepted as the stigma of fear attached to sexuality and the body lessens in modern culture. Since the later decades of the 20th century, Tantra, the esoteric science of sacred sexuality has become prevalently known in the U.S. and western culture. Tantric healing provides a vocabulary and methodology for addressing an individual’s psychological and emotional issues associated with sex.
Eros is the primal urge, or drive, to connect—with an emphasis on the connecting aspect of experience. Eros erupts in many forms: through imagination, emotions, sight, and in the multitude of ways of touching and sensual connection—creating an energetic vibrational resonance in the body. Healthy sexual energy flows freely as it expands and travels throughout the energetic and physical body. When there are contractions, or knots, in the flow of sexual energy it creates symptoms of discomfort, numbness, low libido, and lower satisfaction with sex and intimacy.
Sexual healing seeks to reveal and release the energy knots that block a person’s full experience and expression of their sexual energy. These knots come from experiences of sexual trauma, assault, molestation, and rape. These knots are psycho-somatic or psychoid —having both a physical and emotional-psychological location. Just as when there is a cramp in the muscle that clenches up and is painful—so to these energy knots create a clenched, restricted, contracted knot of energy that limits the flow of sexual energy. When energy is impacted this way, the physical body feels pain or numbness and one’s energy (of desire or feeling connected to a partner) is reduced.
Tantric healing is used in sexual healing because it addresses both the physical and energetic levels of the client. The esoteric science of Tantra, with its understanding of subtle energies and how they relate to the body, seeks to discover, reveal, release and clear the energetic knots resulting from sexual trauma and emotional wounding. When these blocks to energy flow are cleared there is a return to feeling a fullness of being alive and engaged with life.
The emotional body carries a heavy load that impacts day-to-day engagement with others and needs to relax and feel safe. The mental body is often on overwhelm due to the incessant demands of life challenges—and needs a “time-out” to recuperate. The etheric body—our connection to spirit and the divine—is often starving for conscious engagement; being limited by the emotional and mental bodies overloaded levels of concern and getting precious little time for meditation, prayer, introspection, or spiritual communion. Tantric healing sessions provide an opportunity for such a releasing, connecting and clearing —restoring the natural flow of energy and well-being.
Tantric Healing Sessions
Tantric healing sessions provide an opportunity to release energy knots that limit one’s full experience and expression of erotic energy. Releasing these knots gains an enormous amount of personal power, confidence and clarity and opens one to greater amounts of pleasure and more profound sensual experiences while feeling integrated wholeness and well-being.
A Tantric healing session engages the body’s energy centers (Chakras) and erotic energy through energy and breath work, movement, visualization, sensual touch, and sound resonance. This is an intuitive process that directs and guides the sensing of energy as it moves, builds, ripens and flows. The purpose for these sessions is to create a safe space of trust in an adept facilitator so the mind, emotions and body can relax and soften the armoring that prevents the knotted energy from “letting go” and releasing. To aid in this, a full-body sensual massage facilitates physical, emotional and energetic opening and relaxation. Energy knots are addressed with gentle, safe, and conscious engagement (see Internal Pelvic Release) —restoring one to greater vitality and well-being.
Tantric Healing, not Sex
Sexually inhibited people carry emotional baggage about sexuality and likely have trust issues and low self-esteem or body image issues as well. Due to abuse that often shows up in this area of life some are skeptical, wary, and afraid of seeking help with such intimate and vulnerable wounds. Feeling safe is paramount. Women, and men, who receive Tantric healing are not having sex with a sexual healer. They go through a series of breath and movement exercises that go with a sensual massage that have the purpose of relaxing, opening, and discovering where the energy knots are impacting their experience. Somatic activation and light-touch healing techniques are then applied to release the knots and restore energy flow.
Feelings of low self-esteem, confusion, or frustration about sexual expression and intimacy are sometimes easier to ignore than deal with. It is however, possible to trust a trained and competent sexual healer to help you release the energy knots that block a fuller sexual experience and feel spiritual-sexual integration and wholeness.
Tantric Healing Results
The container for Tantric Healing sessions is one of: Unconditional Acceptance, Trust, Safety, Respect, Non-judgment, Openness, and Conscious Presence. Tantric healing sessions are intentionally set up to provide a safe and sacred space for women and men to discover, look at and release any blocks to the free flow of dynamic, erotic, creative, sensual, sexual energy. There is no threat to existing relationships, in fact the opposite is true—one’s relationship experiences a deepening, and a shift into more authenticity, freedom, and joy because the client feels more of herself that she can give to her partner. Mates thank me for helping their beloved receive healing of emotional and energetic wounds—without any attachment or enmeshment between us. What results from experiencing Tantric Healing is a refreshed spirit and enlivened body! By releasing and clearing blocks to the fullness of your sexual energy and its “flow” you feel more alive, more present, more embodied; and more able to enjoy sexual fulfillment with a greater capacity.
* The Tantric Healer’s desire for sexual gratification is not part of the session. They usually remain fully clothed and their genitals are not engaged with or part of a Tantric healing session. The Tantric Healer’s focus is on the client’s wellbeing and intention for healing, wholeness and integration. The client is always at-choice and frequent ‘check-ins’ affirm consent as the session progresses. There are no surprises or expectations of anything the client is not ready for.
“It is common for massage therapists to see their clients spontaneously remember trauma in response to touch. It is equally possible for numinous or otherworldly experiences to occur. This is because the hypothalamus transforms the activity of the frontal lobes (awareness) into hormonal messenger molecules. These then communicate with the endocrine glands, including the immune system, digestive system, and muscular-skeletal system. More messenger molecules are then released. When clients experience attunement coupled with compassion and educated touch they are poised for a numinous experience that could substantially enhance their immune function as well as change structure and movement. If this happens sequentially, lives change.”
“The release of tension can never be solely a muscular event. In order for muscles to come out of contraction the mind must also let go; with this letting go, memories are unleashed, along with the fear, anger or horror that initiated the contraction.”
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